How to deal with love for the opposite sex before marriage


Love and attraction towards the opposite sex before marriage is something that is not under one’s control, but our Lord, may He be glorified, has explained how to deal with it in the verse in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing”
[al-Baqarah 2:235].
So the way to deal with it is clear: either to propose or to keep it to oneself until Allah decides concerning this matter. Is this understanding of the verse here correct or not?

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Ruling on masturbation and how to cure the problem

Question: I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with dilals from the Qur’an and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will for give me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was “Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?”.May Allah increase us all in knowledge. Continue reading

Path To Success and Happiness-No:21

By looking at darkness of your sins and faulty sides, don’t stop from heading toward change. Sometimes, when you look at your past sins and faults, you may feel painful regret and sorrow. But, you should not allow these regret and sorrow to bring you down from change and being optimistic. Instead you should use them to flee from committing the same sins and faults. Many people when they don’t regret for their past sins, they commit the same sins and faults. They don’t take lessons from their life. They remain there without change. So when you regret for your past sins, ask Allah for forgiveness. Continue reading

Path to Success and Happiness-No.6

This article is collection of Jireenya Badhaatu’s FB page May 2016 (half) posts
Change in your life is process not spontaneous. At once you can’t climb the peak. Everyday as you strive to change something, you pass from one stage of development to the next. There is no point where you can say I am perfect enough. Always you are invited for change. So take every chance to see change in your life. Don’t be hasty and hopeless. Step forward with hope and patience. When trouble happens, don’t be shocked and slide from change. Remember that when you encounter obstacle, it shows you that you are passing from one stage of change to the next. So see obstacles in this respect. Don’t be banned by obstacles from change. Strive with what you have. Insha Allah one day life takes its order. Continue reading

Ways of strengthening patience

As patience is fard (obligatory), Allâh has provided us with ways and means of obtaining and strengthening the quality of patience, for He has never instructed us to do something without providing us with help and support to do it, and ways and means of achieving it. He has never created a disease without creating a cure for it, and He has guaranteed cure when medicine is used. Even so, patience is difficult, but it is not impossible to attain. Patience consists of two elements: knowledge and action, and from these two elements are derived the remedies for all spiritual and physical troubles. Knowledge and action, combined, are always essential.  Continue reading

Path to Success and Happiness-No.3

This article is collection of Jireenya Badhaatu’s FB page March 2016 posts

No matter how many people commit sins, don’t follow and imitate them. Many people fall to sins due to imitation. They may say to you,”All have girlfriend/boyfriend. All do this. Are you unique? Use your youth age. If you don’t entertain yourself now, when do you entertain yourself? No matter you will repent latter, Allah is gafurrahim…..” They entice you until you follow them. They are sheytan from people. Turn away from them. Continue reading

Path to Success and Happiness-No.2

This article is collection of Jireenya Badhaatu’s FB page February 2016 posts.
Modarate talks– the more you talk much, the more you lose peace of mind. The Mind is wasted with unnecessary information. When we backbite and slander someone, it may seem to us that we are getting pleasure. But we are making our life worse and delving in sins. After some time it causes painful regret and sorrow. Backbiting and slandering throw hatred and suspicion in our hearts. Then we worry about what doesn’t concern us. We loss peace of mind. The day I get peace of mind most is the day I mix with people less and spend my time with reading. The more you chat on the internet, the more you lose peace of mind, is it not? Continue reading

Proposal For marriage No. 5

I have collected these piece of writings from my page which I was writing in six series both in English and Afan Oromo languages. If you see any grammatical flaws,pardon me since English is my third language. Enjoy reading…

Marriage is important life event which is foundation of society. When this foundation can’t take deep root, society loses its identity and destined for destruction. So how can we preserve marriage life from danger so that nation may prosper as a whole? Continue reading

Marriage Proposal- 4 Series in One

I have collected these piece of writings from my page which I was writing in six series both in English and Afan Oromo languages. If you see any grammatical flaws,pardon me since English is my third language. Enjoy reading…

Today as marriage is difficult, many seeds of evils are germinating. If you love someone and want for marriage, first counsel your family and good people around you. Don’t tell to every one. Also don’t keep marriage contract secret. If the love for that person difficult for you, don’t approach him/her before marriage(nikah), be patient. Continue reading

Removing obstacles from Marriage way-P1

Let us review what we saw in the past 6 series concerning marriage proposal. When we choose our best future friend, our first criterion must be Imaan(faith). Why? Because iman is the strongest bond that can connect two persons. It makes them have the same goal. It restrains them from going out of marriage to fulfil thier desires. But lust and worldly gain fade up like clothes. They don’t keep the person from seeking another partner. Rather, they intense the lusts. We should ask ourselves,”Does he/she suit me with the respect of Imaan? Continue reading