She is having a relationship with her boyfriend through messages only

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I have a relationship with a man through email only. I want to put a final stop to this relationship, but I cannot do that; I stop it for a while, then I go back to it. I would like you to tell me about the negative impact of this relationship and the harm I am causing to my religious commitment and to my own soul; do not tell me that the relationship will develop further, because I trust myself and I do not speak to him on the phone or meet him. How can I control myself? I want some reasons that will convince me to give him up; I want a detailed answer with steps I can take to leave him. I have recently found out that he is married. Read the answer from the following link:

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Ruling on taking boyfriends or girlfriends

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I am deeply in love with a Muslim man and want to marry him. I know that Allah forbids girlfriend-boyfriend relationships, and feel very sorry in my heart for our relationship. I feel that because we have been in this relationship which is abhorred by Allah, he will never marry me because he has lost respect for me. What does the Qu’ran say about this?

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Ruling on masturbation and how to cure the problem

Question: I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with dilals from the Qur’an and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will for give me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was “Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?”.May Allah increase us all in knowledge. Continue reading

Inevitable Tests

Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tried? But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars. Or do those who do evil deeds think they can outrun Us? Evil is what they judge.Al-Qur’aan suurah Al-‘Ankabut 29:2-4

Belief is not a mere word we say; it is a reality that imposes duties, a trust that carries requirements and a struggle that demands patience and perseverance. It is not enough that people should claim to believe. Continue reading

Path to Success and Happiness-No16

This article is collection of Jireenya Badhaatu’s posts on Facebook, Oct. 2016

“Stay away from three destroyers, hold up three savers.
Three destroyers are following desires, self-admiration(ujb), avarice (shuhha)
Three savers are fear of Allah in secret and public, justice during anger, moderation both in affluence and poverty” Make your principles these things. Continue reading

Journey To Islam-No-3

I was born in the 70s to a middle-class family consisting of my mother, father and two older brothers. My memories of family life are of a happy, secure, very close and loving family. Although my parents were not religious they were very strict in certain areas of my upbringing such as instilling good manners, generosity and consideration for others. Continue reading

Path to Success and Happiness-No.15

When you bear every test with patience and hope, you go up not down. When you pass one test, you are climbing one stair upward. The hardest test you face in your daily life is the test of heart (inner tests). To remove pride, envy, hatred, suspicion, confusion, showing off (ar-riya), craving for fame and etc , you should struggle hard. Every time you struggle to pass these tests, you are elevated, you get peace of mind and tranquility. So endure tests with patience, striving and tawakkul (relying upon Allah), make du’aa to pass every test. Remember that degree of your honour, happiness and success is not measured by your wealth or position rather it is measured how much your heart is pure. Due to this hardest test is the inner test. Heart changes in every time, it is not constant. So to purify your heart, struggle hard.
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Path to Happiness and Success-No.14

Your ultimate goal is not to be beloved most insight of people rather let it be most beloved insight of Allah. When you are beloved insight of Allah, you will be beloved insight of people. But if you strive to gain pleasure of people rather than pleasure of Allah, you burden yourself with heavy load. Continue reading

Cure For Love Sickness

Last week, we have seen the meaning of love, its harm and motives. To review, love is one part of sickness or test of life. The person who is undergoing this test is just struggling with one part of life’s test. Being successful or failing depend on the condition of that person. If you know the motives of love sickness, it becomes easier for you to pass this test. If you know the causes of particular diseases, by keeping away from those causes, you prevent the disease. The same applies to love sickness. While saying this, we are not saying that you never get sick. While fleeing from causes of disease, sometimes you get sick. After you had gotten sick, you need to go to hospital or take drugs. In the same vein, when you are caught by love sickness, you need to take a medicine.  These medicines are as follows: Continue reading

Fire of Love

Today, as fire of war is intense, so does fire of love. Confusion and darkness overtake them when youth enter to love world. When love is mentioned, people have different views. Some view as evil and immoral. While others view as a means to fulfil only carnal desire. This is not the correct definition of love. Let’s define love. In English you can’t get broad concept of love. So where can we look for? Arabic language gives balanced definition. In Arabic the well-known words for love are two. Those are al-Hub and al-Ishq. Continue reading