Ruling on taking boyfriends or girlfriends


I am deeply in love with a Muslim man and want to marry him. I know that Allah forbids girlfriend-boyfriend relationships, and feel very sorry in my heart for our relationship. I feel that because we have been in this relationship which is abhorred by Allah, he will never marry me because he has lost respect for me. What does the Qu’ran say about this?

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Ways of strengthening patience

As patience is fard (obligatory), Allâh has provided us with ways and means of obtaining and strengthening the quality of patience, for He has never instructed us to do something without providing us with help and support to do it, and ways and means of achieving it. He has never created a disease without creating a cure for it, and He has guaranteed cure when medicine is used. Even so, patience is difficult, but it is not impossible to attain. Patience consists of two elements: knowledge and action, and from these two elements are derived the remedies for all spiritual and physical troubles. Knowledge and action, combined, are always essential.  Continue reading

What are women looking for in a marriage?

The following writing is taken from E-book called ‘Like a Garment’ I find this writing interesting and want to share with you. Good reading

“To have a successful relationship, a couple must understand each other’s needs. A husband must take into account that a woman’s needs and expectations are different than a man’s. Great intimacy can only be achieved if a woman finds a complete, fulfilling relationship

Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love them, cherish them, adore them, be romantic with them, and make them feel beautiful and sexy. They want someone who will be attracted to them emotionally through their personality, and attracted to them physically through their bodies. Continue reading

A Difficult Predicament Indeed

One of our pious predecessors, Thabit bin Nu’man, was angry and tired as he was passing through a garden that  bordered a river. He was so hungry that he could hear his stomach growling, and so his eyes become fixated on the fruits. He saw on the various trees of the garden. In a fit of desperation, he forgot himself and extended his hand to an apple that was within reach. He ate half of it and then drank water from the river.  But then he became overcome by guilt, despite the fact that he had only eaten because of dire need.  He said to himself, “Woe unto me! How can I eat someone else’s fruits without his permission? I make it binding upon myself to not leave this place until I find the owner of this garden and ask him to forgive me for having eaten one of his apples.”  After a brief search, he found the owner’s house. He knocked on the door and the owner of the garden came out and asked him what he wanted.  Continue reading

The responsibility For Psychological Education for Children

Psychological education means training children from early age to be bold, frank, having the capacity goodness for others, to be self-disciplined when angry and of sound moral behavior. Among the most important factor which educators should try to do is to free their children and pupils from such phenomena :

Child at early age cover his face with hands, doesn’t want to speak to others, run away from people out of Shyness. Surely those children who mix with others will be less shy as compared with others who don’t. The remedy for this problem will be to encourage children to meet people and be friendly with by accompanying their parents when they visit friends and relatives, or by asking them kindly to speak with others, young or old. Such visit helps to eradicate Shyness and increase child’s self-confidence. Continue reading