Cure For Love Sickness

Last week, we have seen the meaning of love, its harm and motives. To review, love is one part of sickness or test of life. The person who is undergoing this test is just struggling with one part of life’s test. Being successful or failing depend on the condition of that person. If you know the motives of love sickness, it becomes easier for you to pass this test. If you know the causes of particular diseases, by keeping away from those causes, you prevent the disease. The same applies to love sickness. While saying this, we are not saying that you never get sick. While fleeing from causes of disease, sometimes you get sick. After you had gotten sick, you need to go to hospital or take drugs. In the same vein, when you are caught by love sickness, you need to take a medicine.  These medicines are as follows:
1. Worshipping Allah sincerely– the best medicine you have to take for your every problem is this (Worshipping Allah sincerely). But many people don’t believe this. They search solution where they can’t find. Worshipping Allah sincerely drops from you burden of life and bondage. It gives you true freedom and happiness.
Worship (ibaadah)- it is a general term that applies to what Allah loves and pleases Him from the words and deeds of hidden and apparent. Prayer, Zakah, fasting, hajj, truthful speech, fulfilling trust, being dutiful to parents, keeping kinship relation, fulfilling promises, enjoining what’s right, forbidding what is wrong, and etc are from ibaadah (worship). In other words, Ibaadah (worship) means following what Allah orders and staying away from what He forbids. It is to carry out obligatory duties and abandon prohibited things.” (al-ubudiyyah-page-6-7)
If you understand the meaning of ibaadah well, by worshipping Allah alone, you are saved from life’s trauma and depression.  Indeed, true freedom and happiness are achieved through worshipping Allah alone. Because worship consists of love (al-hubb) and humility (al-khuduu’u). When a person loves someone or something excessively and his heart is humbled for him or it, it means he is worshipping that thing. His heart has submitted to him. Servitude is enslavement of heart. “Whenever the heart seeks to be slave for something, it becomes a slave for that thing.” When the person becomes servant of Allah, he frees himself from enslavement of anything other than Allah. When the person is proud of being servant of Allah, he is subjugated by other things. This is universal law that never fails. He becomes slave for Satan, vain desires, worldly material and etc. This makes his life depressive and confusing.  But when he becomes slave for only one God rather than many gods, his life is organized and ordered.
Allah says:
Did I not enjoin upon you, O children of Adam, that you not worship Satan – [for] indeed, he is to you a clear enemy – And that you worship [only] Me? This is a straight path. And he (Satan) had already led astray from among you much of creation, so did you not use reason?” Suurat Yasin 36:60-62
Indeed, Satan enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. When the person obeys Satan, he worships satan. In other words worship means submitting. Due to this, worshipping Satan is destruction and depression. While worshipping Allah is a straight path, peace and happiness.
When the person turns to Allah sincerely, Allah helps him in getting out of life’s difficulty. You may get sick by love. But you don’t know what you shall do. To be cured, you may try every possibilities. These all may be turned down over you. Depression and confusion may be your daily sea in which you dive. You don’t know when you get out from sea of depression and confusion. Here it is best solution if you use it. Turn to Allah, you will get the best solution.
But what you should do is to take steps toward change. Being believer and then doing good deeds. While turning to Allah, you may look at darkness of sins and be discouraged. But, you should not block your way toward change by looking at your sins and faults. Repent to Allah and do good deeds. At first it may be hard. But be patient. Patience changes bitter to sweet.
Allah says:
Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” And return [in repentance] to your Lord and submit to Him before the punishment comes upon you; then you will not be helped.” Suuraa Az-Zumar 39:53-54
This is the best solution and opportunity before too late.
Ibn al-Qayyim says: “In the heart there is disorder. Nothing puts in order except turning to Allah. In it (the heart) there is loneliness. Nothing removes except being companion with Allah in solitude. In it there is sadness, nothing removes it except rejoicing in knowing Allah and being truthful in dealings. In it there is confusion and distress, nothing calms down except gathering his concerns for Allah and fleeing from confusion to Him. In it there is fire of regret and grieve. Nothing extinguishes it except being pleased with order and prohibition of Allah. And being patient over what Allah decreed until he meets Him. In it there are intense demands. Nothing shrinks them except he needs everything from Allah alone. There is indigence (poverty) in it. Nothing blocks it except loving Allah, turning to Him in repentance, continuously remembering Him and being sincere to Him.  If the world and what it contains were given to him, they would never prevent from him this poverty.” (Al-Ishq p-61)
Precious wisdom
“We sought four traits, but did not achieve them because we did not seek them from their rightful resources: we sought richness in money, but richness is in contentment. We sought comfort in the abundant, but comfort is really in having little. We sought honour in good mannerism (but not for the sake of Allah), but honour lies in the Taqwa (fearing Allah). We sought delight in food and clothes, but delight is in modesty and Islam.”
Other medicines of excessive love are that:
2. Making du’aa (supplication)
3. Lowering the gaze- Sexual attraction begins with a mere glance in the same way that the starting point for the majority of the people of the Fire is some minor wrong action. First comes the glance, then the thought, then the step and then the offense. This is why it is said: “Anyone who is safe from four things preserves his deen (religion): glances, thoughts, words and steps.” So people must guard themselves at these four gates in their defensive walls. They are a way for the enemy to enter and open breaches in order to destroy what is above them completely.
4. Thinking and contemplating.
5. Being busy with what benefits you- many people today make busy themselves with this world only. But they forget Hereafter. Hereafter is sure promise. If the person works for hereafter and this world, his life will stand on the right footing.
6. Getting married if possible
7. Establishing prayer (salah) properly- this is the greatest defensive weapon against Satan. When the person establishes prayer properly- outwardly and inwardly- he/she gets peace of mind. Through praying properly if you seek help of Allah patiently, life’s difficulties such as fire of love will calm down. Allah says:
“O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” Surat Al-Baqara 2:153
Amazing Goal
There was one guy who was confused and lost the way. Every time he feels loneliness and depression. He searches for the way of success and happiness. When he was in elementary school, he used to worry about his future life. He whispers to himself, “I may fail the exam, I may not get admission to a university. When do I finish my school and graduated? What will my future life be?” After he finished high school, he got admission to university. In university, another worries started to engulf him. He whispers to himself with fear and confusion, “Can I finish university? Can I get a job? When do I get married? When, when ????” Great sea of confusion and grieve. But one day, he thought something. What was that? He asked himself, “What’s my goal in Life? What I want to be? Can money and fame, give me real happiness?”
He searched ultimate success and happiness in money, fame and etc. But he lost happiness and success here. So where can he find?
He turns to the Qur’an and studies it every day. He starts to discover real happiness and success. Qur’aan tells him what is real happiness and success. And how to achieve it. Qur’an tells him, ‘Your ultimate goal should be getting pleasure of Allah”.  Alhamdulillah now, the guy has discovered real happiness and success. Every time he looks to this ultimate goal, he is amazed and feels happy. Because this goal is straight path and light. It says to him, ‘You should dedicate every of your action, feelings, speech for the sake of Allah. You should discard all what displeases Allah. If you do this (working to please Allah and staying away from displeasing Him), you will get real happiness and success. If not, you never discover real happiness and success…”

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