“How many times have you noticed people driving their cars in a rage, often slapping the steering wheel and saying, “Oh! Its always buoy!” You may see a person walking in the street, no-one can bear to speak to him, he is so annoyed he keeps repeating, “Oh! It’s so hot!” If you were his colleague working in the same ofﬁce,itwould be a trial for you to have to see him everyday. He always distracts you saying, “O man, the work is so much! Oh, when will they increase our salaries?” He arrives frowning and leaves resentful. Sometimes, he complains of pains in his body or his son’s bad behaviour.
In short, we should all realise that there are problems in our lives with absolutely no solution, and that the only way to deal with them is by taking things easy. Yes, enjoy your life! Beware of allowing your difﬁcult situation to impact on your behaviour at work, with your children, your colleagues, etc. What have they done to deserve such punishment for problems which they played no part in, nor are able to provide solutions to?
Do not let them associate grief and sadness with you each time they see or remember you. This is why the Prophet(SAW) forbade one from wailing over the dead, screaming, tearing up clothes, and shaving the head, etc. Why? Because the way to deal with the dead is by washing the body, covering it in a shroud, praying over it, then burying it in the grave and praying for the deceased. Screaming and wailing serves no purpose, except that it turns the joy of life into grief.
Once al-Ma’aﬁ bin Sulayman was walking with his companion, and his companion turned to him, frowned and said, “How cold it is today!”
Al-Ma’aﬁ said,“Have you warmed up now?’
“No”, he replied.
Al-Ma’aﬁ said,“So what was the point of complaining? If you had gloriﬁedAllah,at least it would have been better for you.”
And how accurate was his understanding and wisdom!
Live your life… Do not expose problems you are unaware of, and do not expound on small matters. Simply continue to enjoy your life.”
Taken fromenjoy-your-life Page 323-324