Love is a human nature that leads to marriage. If there weren’t love, marriage would not have been possible. These are among the signs of Allah.Subahanallah! He put love between us so that we are able to breed. Marriage is the way to fulfil this urgent and very important life element. But before marriage guys may fall in love. This is another test for us. Allah tests human being in different ways. Among these loves is a great test. We are tested by love, whether we are patient or not for the sake of Allah. If we are patient with pain of love, the reward is apparent. If we are not patient and try to fulfill it in haram(unlawful) ways,the punishment is so apparent.
We feel the pain of love in different ways. Among these, thinking about the person whom we loved often, building up future logistics such as how to make her/him happy, checking up his/her Facebook account,twitter and so on,to make him/her engrossed by doing whatever we can,texting messages, calling and etc…
By the pain of love someone may lose many things if it gets out of hand. Among these, while thinking about her/him, he/she may forget other parts of life. Here is a solution to allay pain of love.
1. Being patient- Patience is a convertor of bitter to sweet. Pain of love doesn’t last forever. It is test and trial. After hardship there is relieve. At first we may feel painful disease of love. If we are wise and patient at this very point,then next pain is sweet but not bitter. In life if we hadn’t tasted bitter, how could we be known meaning of life? Sometimes you taste bitter and most time you taste sweet. So why it is difficult to be patient for a little time to taste bitter? The time you are a patient with bitterness and pain leads you to happiness and victory. By hoping the great reward from Allah both in this life and next being patient with pain of love, what a happy and sweet life you are leading o guys! In this life you will be rewarded with good offsprings and sustainable love between you. Human loves the first thing he meets. If you are patient and establish good family, what happy life you will lead,Insha Allah! So be patient to taste this and the greatest sweet. “O you who are patient! Bear a little more, just a little more remains.”
2. Setting Goals– Now at least you have accounts of Facebook or other social media. If so, why do you lose account of your life? Life goal is your account. Today you deposit to it something, tomorrow you will use it. Once you set your goals,then you remember and work hard to achieve it every day. In this manner other ideas lose the room. You become busy with your goals. Pain of love no longer can affect you. Rather it becomes a source of joy. When you set goals, don’t forget to include the ultimate goal that is Jannah(Paradise). No matter how much you are sinful and weak, make Jannah(Paradise) your goal.Don’t be hopeless. Every time you remember its description according to Prophetic Sunnah and Qur’an, you long and yearn for that world. Once you set your goals,then kindle the fire of determination,strong will and intention in your heart. Insha Allah in this manner you can allay the pain of love.
3. Closing the ways that excites pain of love– Today every direction invites you to destruction. As much as possible lower your gaze from looking haram(unlawful) things like movie,nude people on TV, internet,newspaper, or magazine.. Do you know that lowering your gaze increases your sweetness of iman(faith),happiness,wisdom,knowledge,sharp and brilliant mind and the like. So be wise and insightful to control your eyes.
4. Making Du’a (supplication) – We can do nothing, nor protect ourselves from evil things except with the help of Allah. When satan whispers to you,make du’a(supplication) so that he may disappear. One of the du’a (supplication) I use often is the following. When I say it again and again,I get relief.
رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنۡ هَمَزَٲتِ ٱلشَّيَـٰطِينِ ٩٧ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَن يَحۡضُرُونِ
“My Lord, I seek refuge in You from the incitements of the devils,
And I seek refuge in You, my Lord , lest they be present with me.” Al-Muminun:97-98
Make du’a to Allah so that He protects you from falling to evils. If you love someone, still make du’a to be together in the future. Ask Allah with sincerity to give you patience until you meet in Halal(lawful) way.
May Allah grant us patience and steadfastness.