The responsibility For Psychological Education for Children

Psychological education means training children from early age to be bold, frank, having the capacity goodness for others, to be self-disciplined when angry and of sound moral behavior. Among the most important factor which educators should try to do is to free their children and pupils from such phenomena :

��Shyness
Child at early age cover his face with hands, doesn’t want to speak to others, run away from people out of Shyness. Surely those children who mix with others will be less shy as compared with others who don’t. The remedy for this problem will be to encourage children to meet people and be friendly with by accompanying their parents when they visit friends and relatives, or by asking them kindly to speak with others, young or old. Such visit helps to eradicate Shyness and increase child’s self-confidence.

FEAR

This phenomena is present in both children and old, male and female. It is commendable within natural limit to protect child from danger. But excessive fear may cause psychological problems such as anxiety. There are factors behind the increase of fear ; important among these factors are : -Fear caused by mother when speaking about jinn, darkness and strange creatures. -Too much fondling by mothers, excessive care and preoccupation with children. -Raising children in loneliness and seclusion. -Telling fairy stories concerning jinn and devils. To treat this phenomena the following are to be taken into consideration:

1. To raise the child from the very beginning on belief in Allah and worshipping Him.

2. To give the child suitable amount of freedom concerning his behavior, bearing responsibility and acting according to his growth and developing capacity. 3. Restrain from frightening the child especially when he cries. 4. To enable the child to mix with others and to give him the opportunity to make friends and acquaintance. 5. Introducing them to the battle of the Prophet (SAW) and of the heroic early generations and prompting them to follow the example of the great companions, followers, leaders and conqueror, in order to inspire in them a sense of bravery, heroism and jihad.  Inferiority Complex Inferiority is

 Inferiority Complex: Inferiority is psychological state which affects children as a result of inborn illness, as a disease, ill-treatment or economic factors. The factors which cause such a complex are : 1. Being despised and insulted 2. Being over indulged 3. Unjust treatment by family members 4. Physical deformity 5. Being an orphan 6. Poverty Read its details from the book

 Envy

Envy is a desire on the part of one person to see the disappearance of another person’s wealth or privilege. It is a dangerous phenomena which leads to evil results. The reasons that kindle jealousy and envy in the hearts of children are as follows : -The child may fear losing some of his privileges such as love and kindness, especially when another child has been born to same family. He may imagine that this child would compete with him for love and kindness. -inciting jealousy between children, by mentioning that one is intelligent and the other is not. -Favoring a certain child more than others, by fondling and playing with him while neglecting, depriving or beating the other. – Forgiving one child’s misdeeds and punishing another child for least misdeeds. – The child may live in severe poverty, while community lives in luxury.
Here we find that Islam has dealt with the phenomena of envy with wise educational principles as follows – Making the child feel he/she is loved, for that was what the Prophet (SAW) did and always recommended to his companions. İt should not be forgotten by educators, especially mothers, that measures should be taken to avoid provoking envy when a new child is born. Before new child is born, changing his bed or sending to nursery. When a mother carries the baby for suckling, then it is commendable that the father plays with older child and be gentle with him/her to make him/her feel that he/she is still the object of love and kindness.
Justices between children: parents should deal with justice between children, for this will help allay envious feeling among them ;so children will live with their siblings and parents in love and kindness. Parents should do everything possible to get rid of envious feelings. So, in case of a new baby, older children may feel their lose of love and kindness from their parents. The duty of parents is to make the children feel that their love and affection have not changed. It is responsibility of parent to keep away from blaming and chastising. As Prophet (SAW) said “Beware of envy, because envy eats up good deeds as the fire eats up wood.”

Anger

Anger is a psychological and emotional state that a child may feel during his first days and continue to accompany him through all the stages of life. The Qur’an has commanded believers to repress anger, repel evil with good acts, and
turn away from ignorant people so that society can achieve happiness, affection and Muslim can preserve their unity. Allah Says
“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good” Ali Imran 3:134 In fact since the phenomenon of anger has its bad effects on the human personality, the mind, self-restraint, the cohesiveness and unity of society. So it’s duty of parents to deal with anger among children from their very beginning till they attain maturity. The best treatment for the phenomenon of anger in a child is to keep him away the reasons for anger.

In fact since the phenomenon of anger has its bad effects on the human personality, the mind, self-restraint, the cohesiveness and unity of society. So it’s duty of parents to deal with anger among children from their very beginning till they attain maturity. The best treatment for the phenomenon of anger in a child is to keep him away the reasons for anger.
Source: http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Child%20Education%20in%20Islam.pdf

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